my LJ was far more candid before most of elbonia joined, and suddenly just having pseudonyms wasn't going to protect people's "privacy", i.e., all the not-really-as-unique-as-they-think ways that people try to manipulate their reputations via sins of omission.
but, my personal filters are different enough that I inevitably betray apparent confidences of others, or, much worse, known confidences by finding myself participating in a conversation already in progress where my comment turns out to be the first confirmation of some detail that I'd been led to believe had already been well-discussed.
(And then I get go away and feel like shit, have that person firmly remind me, repeatedly, that I AM shit, and come perilously close to the "well, fuck you then, I can't do anything right except get the hell out of your life" defense mechanism, which leaves me free to really wreak havoc.)
so, now I'm trying to learn how to avoid any communication or conversation altogether...
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Date: 2010-01-20 11:41 pm (UTC)but, my personal filters are different enough that I inevitably betray apparent confidences of others, or, much worse, known confidences by finding myself participating in a conversation already in progress where my comment turns out to be the first confirmation of some detail that I'd been led to believe had already been well-discussed.
(And then I get go away and feel like shit, have that person firmly remind me, repeatedly, that I AM shit, and come perilously close to the "well, fuck you then, I can't do anything right except get the hell out of your life" defense mechanism, which leaves me free to really wreak havoc.)
so, now I'm trying to learn how to avoid any communication or conversation altogether...
yeah, that's working. [insert wincing emoticon here... stoopid eljay]