First, that life is difficult for some people in ways they don't deserve. Second, that life is NOT difficult for some people who deserve it more.
About the first there isn't much to say beyond "Ayup" (and perhaps "come sit with me under this fig tree, and we'll talk about it," if one is up to the job description).
Do you want it not to rankle? Or do you just want to acknowledge that it rankles? (Nothing wrong with the latter; just asking.)
I find that, when I'm having difficulty accepting that sometimes life is difficult for me, it helps to think about the to-a-first-approximation-100% of the people who have ever lived who would do just about anything to get to live my life.
You might find a similar perspective to be helpful when contemplating your friends' lives. Perhaps they suffer for their atypical looks so much the percentage drops to 99%, maybe even as low as 97% (though I find that very unlikely), but they're still doing way better than they deserve. Good for them!
Of course, there's that second aspect. Maybe we're the beneficiaries of Grace, but there exist other people who are even more so, or who we consider less worthy of it, and that rankles.
To which, again, there isn't much to say beyond "Ayup".
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Date: 2009-06-18 06:13 pm (UTC)First, that life is difficult for some people in ways they don't deserve.
Second, that life is NOT difficult for some people who deserve it more.
About the first there isn't much to say beyond "Ayup" (and perhaps "come sit with me under this fig tree, and we'll talk about it," if one is up to the job description).
Do you want it not to rankle? Or do you just want to acknowledge that it rankles? (Nothing wrong with the latter; just asking.)
I find that, when I'm having difficulty accepting that sometimes life is difficult for me, it helps to think about the to-a-first-approximation-100% of the people who have ever lived who would do just about anything to get to live my life.
You might find a similar perspective to be helpful when contemplating your friends' lives. Perhaps they suffer for their atypical looks so much the percentage drops to 99%, maybe even as low as 97% (though I find that very unlikely), but they're still doing way better than they deserve. Good for them!
Of course, there's that second aspect. Maybe we're the beneficiaries of Grace, but there exist other people who are even more so, or who we consider less worthy of it, and that rankles.
To which, again, there isn't much to say beyond "Ayup".