I worry that I do this *all the time* (project unintentional conceit, I mean.) I find other people very interesting once I understand enough about them to sort of have a place to start, but I'm bad at figuring out how to overcome the activation barrier of getting there, so I often feel like I'm either failing to try to talk about the other person as one is supposed to, or doing it in an obnoxious interrogatory manner.
(Though there is also a specific conversational pathology issue that's particularly bad with people who are also shy, because sometimes I'll be trying really hard to keep a conversation going, and I'll get to a point where I give up and I'll mentally say, "okay, that's all the topics I'm throwing out there. It's your turn now, or this conversation is dying." And that... well, sort of is disdain and conceit. :\ I have trouble imagining having that experience with you, though, because, you know, you're not particularly bad at conversational reciprocity. :) Speaking of which, you should come to the west coast sometime (presumeably when not in the midst health crises--I don't know the details but hope everything's going okay?))
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Date: 2006-10-13 09:49 pm (UTC)(Though there is also a specific conversational pathology issue that's particularly bad with people who are also shy, because sometimes I'll be trying really hard to keep a conversation going, and I'll get to a point where I give up and I'll mentally say, "okay, that's all the topics I'm throwing out there. It's your turn now, or this conversation is dying." And that... well, sort of is disdain and conceit. :\ I have trouble imagining having that experience with you, though, because, you know, you're not particularly bad at conversational reciprocity. :) Speaking of which, you should come to the west coast sometime (presumeably when not in the midst health crises--I don't know the details but hope everything's going okay?))