Actually not as off the charts as you might think. I'm shy in groups of strangers. I think it's a combination of a) my being a short Asian guy in a culture which doesn't particularly value shortness or being my particular ethnic minority (versus being tall and white, for example), and b) left over stuff from childhood.
In any case, I'm a lot more extroverted with people I've already been introduced to than with new ones.
Ah.. actually that makes total sense. Most of us do better with vetted people. I guess the big difference is that some of your life choices (the serious travel bug in particular) throw you in the way of wide acquaintance. That looks to the uncritical eye like daunting gregariousness, when in fact it's just that each acquaintance would be breaking through the wash of solitude that travel creates. (Or at least that's how it would work for me.) People are greater gifts when you've shifted out of your context, I find.
a jumping off point for future discussions, of course, but: i look around in nearly *any* social circumstance except when i'm at MIT (and even then, sometimes), and i don't see a majority of tall, white people any more. things have changed in the last 10, even 3 or 5 years.
i'm sure they haven't changed (as?) much in the financial worlds. but there are changes everywhere else, and so the financial worlds will have to change as well. things changing for minorities in general will eventually affect your particular minority, too. there isn't a particularly substantiable argument to make about that, but i do believe that it's quite true.
as a gastronomical aside (much more important than all of the semiexistential stuff above!) are you still in CA or are you back in MA? i'm free and hungry, was thinking of dim sum or something like it and so naturally, i thought of you. :) email or call me (mobile only) if you're around?
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Date: 2007-06-22 02:14 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2007-06-23 12:51 am (UTC)In any case, I'm a lot more extroverted with people I've already been introduced to than with new ones.
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Date: 2007-06-23 01:59 am (UTC)Eh. I'm babbling.
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Date: 2007-07-07 03:22 pm (UTC)i'm sure they haven't changed (as?) much in the financial worlds. but there are changes everywhere else, and so the financial worlds will have to change as well. things changing for minorities in general will eventually affect your particular minority, too. there isn't a particularly substantiable argument to make about that, but i do believe that it's quite true.
as a gastronomical aside (much more important than all of the semiexistential stuff above!) are you still in CA or are you back in MA? i'm free and hungry, was thinking of dim sum or something like it and so naturally, i thought of you. :) email or call me (mobile only) if you're around?