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People tend to respond to incentives.

If people are not behaving in ways you like, perhaps it's time to look at the incentives you're offering.

Comments

[tyellas.livejournal.com]

At the risk of sounding like a manipulative vixen...I have to agree. I use compliments and body language to get people on my side when I have to. (This happens most often in my job as a technical writer, where I have had to persuade some truly truculent engineers to work with me.) I ask for a bargain, but I offer cash. With my temporary flatmate, I have a stick in one hand and sugared carrots in the other.

Positive feedback when people do well, or do something you like (the dishes, the review, the discount) is a powerful, powerful incentive.

[allessindra.livejournal.com]

... except when people decide you're deliberately manipulating them.

... except when people have some weird thing about being pushed, and the more you show that you want something from them the more they resist doing it (even if it's something they want to do.)

... except when people are completely and totally oblivious to another's opinion.