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Why is it that well-meaning people fail to understand when people have issues, even emotional landmines, about certain subjects, and still keep banging on about them.

Are they simply clueless? Do they not listen? Or is it that they say things so they can hear themselves talk? What?

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[rdansky.livejournal.com]

The cynic in me suggests that many of the people who relentlessly blunder into that territory are primarily concerned with being able to tell themselves that they're actively helping, which they would not be able to do if they took the hint and left the topic alone. The fact that this is not, in fact, helping the person in question is irrelevant.

The generous part of my nature suggests that there are a great many well-meaning people who, for whatever reason, have absolutely no social skills and thus never notice the signs reading "Here Be Dragons". It's a problem they can hopefully help solve, and the associated emotional content quite literally never registers.