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Why is it that well-meaning people fail to understand when people have issues, even emotional landmines, about certain subjects, and still keep banging on about them.

Are they simply clueless? Do they not listen? Or is it that they say things so they can hear themselves talk? What?

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[r-ness.livejournal.com]

The weirdest thing that I see is how "gendered" this issue is.

Why is that weird?

(Note that I have no idea what RaceFail is and how it relates to this post.)

[achinhibitor.livejournal.com]

There is at least one long-running heated discussion about people of color in fandom, how many of them there are, why the feel excluded, etc. One of the issues involved is the idea that if something would make someone uncomfortable, it should not be said -- which resembles the start of this thread. About 5 white women on my f-list have written about RaceFail and no men, unless I count your post, which evidently wasn't actually referring to it.

As for "gendered", I don't recall discussions being that lopsided in sex-ratio of participants.

[r-ness.livejournal.com]

Huh.

Not having any idea about the discussion in question, I have to say that it sounds like a very different situation from the one I was thinking of when I posted. By and large, the problem I'm referring to is when someone won't shut up about some subject after they've been asked not to bring it up, repeatedly and in various ways.

When you say that you don't recall discussions being that lopsided in sex-ratio, do you mean discussions in general or some subset of them in particular?