A poly thought.

[randomness]

Your worth is not measured in the number of sweeties you're seeing.

Your worth is measured in how well you treat the sweetie(s) you're seeing.

Comments

[oneagain.livejournal.com]

The most common case of this is the distinction between zero and one sweetie

That I can understand a bit better. Loneliness is no good for anyone. More, I was referring to folk who have people in their lives and think less of themselves for not having more...

There are also people who are genuinely happier with a specific number of partners higher than one, for whatever reasons--a friend who refers to herself as "bi-something-or-other-al" comes to mind--but don't measure their self-worth by whether they have that number of partners.

This, I understand, as it describes me as well. The bedpost notchers...well...I guess folk can use sex/sweeties as a way to feel good about themselves, and feel badly about themselves if they are running dry...though I am thinking the real problem lies somewhere else. But then, I am probably not aware of all of *my* delusions, so why should other people be aware of their own?