A poly thought.

[randomness]

Your worth is not measured in the number of sweeties you're seeing.

Your worth is measured in how well you treat the sweetie(s) you're seeing.

Comments

[coraline]

amen

[drucifer25.livejournal.com]

I think that measuring a person's worth in terms of their relationships is also probably a mistake.

[whitebird.livejournal.com]

That holds true for the monogamous as well. Well, except for the "how many" bit, of course. But. Still. :)

[intuition-ist.livejournal.com]

hear, hear. well put.

[noire.livejournal.com]

yes

[quietann.livejournal.com]

yep. This is part of the reason I have two and no more.

[oneagain.livejournal.com]

Your worth is not measured in the number of sweeties you're seeing.

Mmm...I confess I am confused by this statement; it seems like saying "the sky is up, and the ground is down". Well, yeah. Everyone knows that...does not everyone know that? Are there folk who measure their value by how many sweeties they have?

[oneagain.livejournal.com]

The most common case of this is the distinction between zero and one sweetie

That I can understand a bit better. Loneliness is no good for anyone. More, I was referring to folk who have people in their lives and think less of themselves for not having more...

There are also people who are genuinely happier with a specific number of partners higher than one, for whatever reasons--a friend who refers to herself as "bi-something-or-other-al" comes to mind--but don't measure their self-worth by whether they have that number of partners.

This, I understand, as it describes me as well. The bedpost notchers...well...I guess folk can use sex/sweeties as a way to feel good about themselves, and feel badly about themselves if they are running dry...though I am thinking the real problem lies somewhere else. But then, I am probably not aware of all of *my* delusions, so why should other people be aware of their own?

[quezz.livejournal.com]

I'd be happy with one. I don't think I have time for much more...and I'm debating if I have time for that. :)

[marmota.livejournal.com]

Definitely, and I'd also add it's in how well they treat you back.

[choirsoftheeye.livejournal.com]

I agree with this SO much.

[madbodger.livejournal.com]

Too true. And I must admit, I love seeing your sweetie!