People take their cultural assumptions into bed with them. I think it's useful to examine those assumptions and be aware of which ones one's taking in.
Anyway, yes. They are there, and they don't just vanish. You don't start a new relationship a clean slate, any more than you start anything else an entirely clean slate. Obviously, you would like to take a new relationship for what it is, and not have it unduly influenced by your assumptions, but your assumptions are part of who you are.
What I would say is that while many things can up for renegotiation it's unclear that everything (anything?) can be reset without regard to the past. Sometimes, the negotiation ends in "Sorry, we clearly can't come to an agreement."
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Date: 2007-06-15 05:42 pm (UTC)Anyway, yes. They are there, and they don't just vanish. You don't start a new relationship a clean slate, any more than you start anything else an entirely clean slate. Obviously, you would like to take a new relationship for what it is, and not have it unduly influenced by your assumptions, but your assumptions are part of who you are.
What I would say is that while many things can up for renegotiation it's unclear that everything (anything?) can be reset without regard to the past. Sometimes, the negotiation ends in "Sorry, we clearly can't come to an agreement."