People take their cultural assumptions into bed with them. I think it's useful to examine those assumptions and be aware of which ones one's taking in.
You can't bring your previous relationship agreements into a new relationship whole [1], but you have to bring some of your assumptions and expectations in, and sometimes that's a good thing. If I didn't, for example, bring in the assumption that the other person was going to be basically honest with me, I wouldn't go into the relationship.
[1] I'm poly, which means that I am bringing in some aspects of my existing relationship agreements into a new relationship, notably that the existing relationships exist, and matter, and that my partners will know what's going on.
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Date: 2007-06-16 12:57 am (UTC)[1] I'm poly, which means that I am bringing in some aspects of my existing relationship agreements into a new relationship, notably that the existing relationships exist, and matter, and that my partners will know what's going on.