A scrap from yesterday's conversation.

[randomness]

Sex is communication. If someone is a bad communicator out of bed, it's unlikely they'll be a good communicator in bed. Possible, but unlikely.

Edit: A number of commenters have drawn a distinction between verbal and non-verbal communication, and assumed I meant "verbal=out of bed"; "non-verbal=in bed". That is not what I posted. I do find it noteworthy that people make that assumption.

Comments

[r-ness.livejournal.com]

It's fine that you disagree but my post does match my experience. Perhaps we are working from different theories.

I do interact with people a lot non-verbally out of bed, so I think I get to see a lot more of that that aspect of their communication style before I sleep with them.