A scrap from yesterday's conversation.

[randomness]

Sex is communication. If someone is a bad communicator out of bed, it's unlikely they'll be a good communicator in bed. Possible, but unlikely.

Edit: A number of commenters have drawn a distinction between verbal and non-verbal communication, and assumed I meant "verbal=out of bed"; "non-verbal=in bed". That is not what I posted. I do find it noteworthy that people make that assumption.

Comments

[lyonesse.livejournal.com]

samuel r delany wrote up some very interesting autobiographical stories describing rather a disconnect there. i think they were in "the motion of light in water" if you'd care to read a dissenting view.

[drwex]

That does not match my experience at all. In particular, there are people who are crapTACular at communicating with words, whose communication without words is excellent.

people have different styles.