i was more asking what prompted this, as well as commiserating, since i just spoke out about something i feel strongly about, finding out a lot about a friend i didn't know in the process.
Was that a good thing, finding out about that friend? I'm sorry if it wasn't.
(I didn't actually share my opinion, so it wasn't that I had a bad reaction from someone. I just thought about it and then decided I could post what I did.)
I try hard to think of it as data; this is often hard when it's something that hits me emotionally, but I remind myself that I make better decisions when I have more information.
Ah yes, I have learned this lesson myself. Sometimes I forget and some people remind me quite vocally that my opinions should be kept to myself because they are wrong.
Contrary to the credo of this society, Miss Manners firmly believes that there are certain honest, understandable, deeply felt emotions that ought never to be expressed by anyone. -- "Miss Manners' Guide to the Turn of the Millennium"
But most people make the mistake of thinking that best-not-expressed ideas are political (rather than personal).
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Date: 2013-10-07 11:58 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2013-10-08 12:09 am (UTC)But I would encourage you to speak up when you feel strongly, but judge when and where that's best.
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Date: 2013-10-08 12:13 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2013-10-08 08:43 am (UTC)(I didn't actually share my opinion, so it wasn't that I had a bad reaction from someone. I just thought about it and then decided I could post what I did.)
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Date: 2013-10-08 02:30 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2013-10-08 02:33 pm (UTC)I try hard to think of it as data; this is often hard when it's something that hits me emotionally, but I remind myself that I make better decisions when I have more information.
I'm sorry, hon. *hug*
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Date: 2013-10-08 07:40 pm (UTC)this is very true. thank you.
*hugback*
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Date: 2013-10-08 02:39 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2013-10-08 08:38 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2013-10-08 04:02 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2013-10-08 08:44 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2013-10-08 12:07 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2013-10-08 02:46 pm (UTC)But they do never learn.
I'm sorry you get silenced. Best thing I can recommend is not to let them shut you up.
(Personally, I have some zany ideas that I don't think I should necessarily share...but I don't know if your ideas fit that description.)
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Date: 2013-10-08 03:13 pm (UTC)But most people make the mistake of thinking that best-not-expressed ideas are political (rather than personal).
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Date: 2013-10-08 03:28 pm (UTC)Miss Manners: Words to live by.
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Date: 2013-10-09 01:49 pm (UTC)I find it useful to separate the acts of writing and hitting "Add Comment" or whatever. Often by hours.