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[randomness]

Occasionally, I get really angry on behalf of some of my friends because of appearance privilege.

Here's what I mean: I have a number of friends who are really sweet, wonderful people. They often get treated badly, however, in part because they don't fit the societal definition of what people (women, particularly--most of them are women) should look like.

On the other hand, there are a few acquaintances who get away with truly obnoxious behavior because they're conventionally attractive. (I can't think of anyone who fits that description who is actually a friend, for the obvious reason that sufficiently obnoxious behavior tends to drive me away, even when I haven't been directly affected by it.)

There's not much I can do about it except try to be a good friend, but it still rankles.

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[thespian.livejournal.com]

I was having a discussion with someone about this last week; there is someone who is intentionally acting like a brat and then almost literally doing 'don't hate me because I'm beautiful.'

I was ignored at the PolyBoston table twice at Pride, btw, for 'thinneryoungerblonder', by people who don't know me and were not ignoring me because they knew I was involved...they were ignoring me because there was 'cuter' available even though cuter was behind me...I literally *didn't* exist.

[r-ness.livejournal.com]

there is someone who is intentionally acting like a brat and then almost literally doing 'don't hate me because I'm beautiful.'

Yah. I mean, I suspect we're not talking about the same people, but the description is so accurate we could be.

[thespian.livejournal.com]

especially as thinneryoungerblonder at pride, when female, is LESS LIKELY to be interested in you if you're a boy. But the male poly community around here, even when they are genuinely into the amory over the poly, has a tendency to be very focused on the ladies in a way that is offputting.