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[randomness]

Occasionally, I get really angry on behalf of some of my friends because of appearance privilege.

Here's what I mean: I have a number of friends who are really sweet, wonderful people. They often get treated badly, however, in part because they don't fit the societal definition of what people (women, particularly--most of them are women) should look like.

On the other hand, there are a few acquaintances who get away with truly obnoxious behavior because they're conventionally attractive. (I can't think of anyone who fits that description who is actually a friend, for the obvious reason that sufficiently obnoxious behavior tends to drive me away, even when I haven't been directly affected by it.)

There's not much I can do about it except try to be a good friend, but it still rankles.

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[kabistani.livejournal.com]

It is common enough in the UK for "Coupling" to have aired an episode that makes fun of the problem.

One of the main characters who is particularly self absorbed and a womainzer (really funny as an architype, not pleasant in RL) talks with three individuals. The scene is seen from his perspective and then another character's perspective. He thinks he is talking to two pretty woman and a stout man. In the other's (more correct) reality it is two pretty women and one "ugly" manish woman.

So, no I doubt it is any better, or at least much better, in Britain. Just humans being bad humans.