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[randomness]

In a friends-locked post recently, one of my friends discussed how people don't actually read what you write, but instead construct a virtual text from your title, a few fragments, and their own preconceptions.

A few minutes ago I realized something analogous happens when people don't hear what you say. It's all the worse when what you say isn't a very accurate reflection of the thoughts inside your head. And worse still when your primary focus is being witty, not transferring information.

I care very deeply about her. However, I find it very difficult to articulate that feeling to others. Not to her, fortunately, and that's reassuring. But it never comes out right when I try to explain it to anyone else.

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Unrelated to that I had a (rather constructive and informative) rant building but it would have been better if I had had it about 48 hours ago so I could have presented it in a meeting. Perhaps it's more of a disquisition than a rant.

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it seems like it matters a lot to you that others may not understand how deeply you care for her. why is that?

Oh, I mentioned her at one point, then found myself backtracking to try and explain what she meant to me, found myself bogged down, then handwaved away the subject.
It was a little like hitting a snowbank, getting stuck, and having to back the car out ungracefully...and it took less time. In fact, it took less time than this paragraph is taking to post. :)

It was neither as angstful nor as difficult as I now realize the posting made it seem, but it was frustrating at the time.