Thoughts for the day: #1, On inconstancy.

[randomness]

Just because what she said then she now contradicts completely doesn't mean she was any less sincere then, or believes in what she says or does now any less.

Sometimes, that's hard. But it isn't any less true.

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[gracest.livejournal.com]

Not exactly true for me though. I try to be consistent. Of course I fail at times.

But if I've said something inconsistent previously, and I'm aware of it, that does make me question what I'm saying now, and whether I really believe it.

It's very tiring :)

[r-ness.livejournal.com]

Of course I fail at times.

The thing is, people change. Situations change. Life changes.

In a lot of ways it's completely unfair to expect someone to stay consistent despite all the changes. In fact, when some people do, we call them stubborn, out of touch, or inflexible.

When someone is inconsistent in something we relied on them for, that's hard, but sometimes it's unavoidable.

I guess what I've tried to learn is how to accept people's inconsistencies. And be able to distinguish inconsistency because of change from mere flakiness. :)

But if I've said something inconsistent previously, and I'm aware of it, that does make me question what I'm saying now, and whether I really believe it.

It's very tiring :)

I'm a big believer in self-analysis, so it seems to me that kind of questioning is helpful. But if it's getting too tiring, well, you seem a lot more consistent than a lot of other people, so...