Yeah, the problem is that it's always easier to see clearly from an external perspective, when you're not all muddled up by the emotional content of the situation.
I don't think I'm any better than anyone else at taking advice--although I will say in my defense that I rarely ask for it--but I am an old hand at learning from other people's experience. The benefit of having two older sisters, I suppose :)
Is that good or bad? I find I don't ask for it enough, myself.
Well, I ask for other people's input and perspective, which I find very useful. But I rarely say "well, what should I do?" unless I'm pretty open to following their advice.
But I rarely say "well, what should I do?" unless I'm pretty open to following their advice.
*nod*
That makes sense; sometimes I actually do want to know what they'd do, to see how that differs from what I'd do, but there is this sense in which you both feel like you have to follow that advice once it's been solicited.
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Date: 2005-11-03 07:55 pm (UTC)I don't think I'm any better than anyone else at taking advice--although I will say in my defense that I rarely ask for it--but I am an old hand at learning from other people's experience. The benefit of having two older sisters, I suppose :)
Grrr. LJ was supposed to log me in after I commented above.
Date: 2005-11-03 08:38 pm (UTC)True enough. Which is why I think my calling is really going to be "management consultant".
I will say in my defense that I rarely ask for it
Is that good or bad? I find I don't ask for it enough, myself.
I am an old hand at learning from other people's experience.
That's clearly a good thing. All the benefits of mistakes, and none of the cost.
Re: Grrr. LJ was supposed to log me in after I commented above.
Date: 2005-11-03 09:00 pm (UTC)Is that good or bad? I find I don't ask for it enough, myself.
Well, I ask for other people's input and perspective, which I find very useful. But I rarely say "well, what should I do?" unless I'm pretty open to following their advice.
Re: Grrr. LJ was supposed to log me in after I commented above.
Date: 2005-11-03 09:04 pm (UTC)*nod*
That makes sense; sometimes I actually do want to know what they'd do, to see how that differs from what I'd do, but there is this sense in which you both feel like you have to follow that advice once it's been solicited.