Do I really need to post this?

[randomness]

Look, that you weren't able to date in high school does not mean you get to make up for lost time by hitting on high school kids now. It's too late. This may not seem fair to you, but that's life. Cope.

Before someone calls the police.

Comments

[rmd.livejournal.com]

um. yeah, that's not cool.

[rmd.livejournal.com]

dare i ask if this is someone i know? (i like to know who to keep an eye on at cons and such)

[r-ness.livejournal.com]

Um...I think perhaps we should have that conversation in person.

[rmd.livejournal.com]

oh, yah, i figured. (feel free to delete this comment thread if you want)

[chris-warrior.livejournal.com]

um, ew.

and this is off-topic, but the New Year's card arrived the other day. thank you!!

[r-ness.livejournal.com]

Glad you got it!

You're welcome!

[n5red.livejournal.com]

Personally, I want to start hitting on some college students. Grad students, to be precise. Or even post-docs.

[dpolicar]

And, also, ew.

[evilbunnymayhem.livejournal.com]

ok so- don't date somethin you could either
a. have given birth to or sired
b. have babysat (as in you're walkin an they aren't yet)
or
c. pick on/hit on someone yer own age, it's not like there aren't enough out there, give the younguns a chance to not be messed up

yeah... that's just narsty, there's a REASON the term "jailbait" exists. *shudder* ew ew ew

[r-ness.livejournal.com]

ok so- don't date somethin you could either
a. have given birth to or sired
b. have babysat (as in you're walkin an they aren't yet)

To be fair, as you get older, this is less and less reasonable advice. The ultimate here is probably telling two people in a nursing home that they can't date just because he's 79 and she's 65.

[inthatoneway.livejournal.com]

Half your age plus 7. That seems to work as a general rule.

[r-ness.livejournal.com]

I think we came to the conclusion (in a recent conversation) that what stage of life you're in makes a much bigger difference than numerical age.

I.e., it's probably a bad idea for someone who's out on their own in the world, paying their own bills, to date someone who isn't.

Mind you, people do this all the time--sugar daddies spring to mind--but perhaps what they're doing isn't the thing I call dating.

[signsoflife.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I've found "shared life experience" to be generally a good bookmark. E.g., my friends who are ten years younger than me but in the same stage in my program seem much, much older than the undergraduates, even though the actual age difference is just a couple years.

[marmota.livejournal.com]

Yeah, there's that half+7 adage, but I've found "5-10 years of shared life experience" works better; IE, if you've been out of college for five years and they haven't, it's a bad idea.

[lyonesse.livejournal.com]

erm. i picked up my husband of the last eight years (partner of eleven) when he was a junior in college and i was abd.

forget the adages. look at the people.

[redbird]

Um, in terms of age I could have babysat one of my partners: I was 14 when they were 6. (In practice, no: casual babysitters are not hired across the ocean.) I don't think that size age difference is an argument against a relationship at our ages.

[r-ness.livejournal.com]

Yeah, eight years is a threshold I've broken any number of times.

Am breaking, in fact.

[hammercock.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I could have babysat my husband when he was a child, as I am 7 years older. :-} Fortunately, we didn't meet until he was 24 and I was 31.

[redbird]

I don't actually recall when I met rysmiel, as it was one of those "friends in common, in same place, gradually get to know each other thing," but I would guess was somewhere in my 30s, and they were in their late 20s. (If it mattered, I could ask their spouse, who introduced us and has a much better memory for this sort of thing.)

[surrealestate.livejournal.com]

Why do you always want to ruin my fun? :p

[hammercock.livejournal.com]

Ew ew ew. :-p

[digitalemur.livejournal.com]

But she's adorable! Have you seen those legs? And it's cute when she blushes.

Okay, okay, okay, you're right.

[r-ness.livejournal.com]

Shouldn't you be saying, "But she's a very mature fourteen!"

[gale-storm.livejournal.com]

Ew. Just that: ew.

[contrariety.livejournal.com]

Hahahah! I got hit ON by high schoolers once a year or two after graduating from college. I have to say, it was sort of gratifying in a very "you little twerps wouldn't've given me the time of day in high school!" way. But yeah, no. NO.

[sylphon.livejournal.com]

Highschoolers either call me ma'am or say they want to be me when they grow up, neither lends itself to a relationship - thankfully :-)

[eeyorecol.livejournal.com]

"That's the thing I love about high school girls - I get older and they stay the same age..."

(sorry, couldn't resist the Dazed and Confused reference)

[belfrynotes.livejournal.com]

I was just conversing in facebook comment thread about this issue, specifically in reference to the mayor of Portland, OR. (May have been involved with a 17 yo boy whom he was theoretically mentoring, in case you missed the news.) Abusing your responsibility when there is a significant power disparity in the relationship is what gets me, much more than the age difference. I do allow for the possibility of a mature relationship existing between an older man and a younger woman, or vice versa, or vice vice, or versa versa, but it's not the norm. However, it's much more likely that a 30-something individual who hits on high-school students still has the emotional maturity/security of a 17 year-old. Ew indeed.

[orewashinanai.livejournal.com]

Guh, with a healthy dose of Bwuh.